O.HENRY ENDING
The Donor
Giving of yourself in acts great and small
By Cynthia Adams
Ann Deaton wears her niece Leslie’s citrus-quartz pendant, fingering it gently as we talk. When I mention how lovely it is, a smile flickers. She eats slowly, sipping tea during our lunch in a Middle Eastern restaurant. The retired high school counselor, with intelligent blue eyes behind gold wire-rimmed glasses, is just regaining the ability to laugh after months of being hamstrung by grief at the loss of her niece.
Leslie inherited Ann’s charismatic personality and valiantly fought cancer for months until her recent death. Ann had been a constant presence in Leslie’s abbreviated life. She watched her battle pancreatic cancer with a pilgrim’s fervor, both expecting a miracle.
In a sense, Ann believes Leslie experienced one. The singular miracle was that, until her end, she remained lucid, engaged, even questioning. At one point, Ann thought that if Leslie got into a new drug trial, she might triumph. Her smile tightens.
“She was so ill at that point; the drug itself would have killed her. I think Leslie lost hope when she learned that.” Today, however, Ann doesn’t weep. She is cried out.
Bearing witness to suffering has taken a toll.
She wraps half the sandwich, saying, “My appetite isn’t really great.” Ann has just returned from Key West, a trip she has made often with old friends.
“I needed it,” she admits. “Those sunsets.”
“It’s so kind of them to invite me.” She casually mentions it might have something to do with “the kidney.”
Without missing a beat, she tells me how she takes trips and celebrates holidays with the family.
The kidney?
“My kidney.”
Ann gave their daughter a kidney on September 25, 2002.
She laughs as my mouth drops open. The recipient survived many years. “Her kidney lasted until her death from cancer.”
“I was in the hospital at Duke overnight. That’s all,” Ann replies, batting questions away.
She looks past my shoulder into space, reflective. Ann remains other-focused.
I tell her my stepfather died of kidney failure after many years on dialysis.
Every eight minutes another person is added to the national transplant waiting list. Only one out of every four needing a transplant receives a kidney, with a typical wait of five years.
Ann is aware of the statistics. She tries to convince others that she is living proof that organ donation “is no big deal.” The transplant is done laparoscopically and generally requires just one overnight hospital stay. A friend, Realtor Kathy Haines, chose to follow her lead, donating a kidney to a stranger.
Ann knows how grateful her recipient’s family remains. At the young woman’s death, she was told that “a part of me is already in heaven.”
“Wasn’t that nice of them to say?” she asks, dabbing a napkin at her mouth.
We part. Ann is off to feed the feral cat colonies around town that she supports. It’s another cause near and dear to her.
With a warm smile she winds a scarf around her neck. Ann walks purposefully, off into the winter’s day.
Afterward, I call a friend whose son died one year after receiving a kidney from a living donor and complete stranger.
I relate what Ann has just shared — that the transplant pain was not significant and recovery was straightforward. My friend’s voice quavers.
“I’ve always dreaded asking the donor, that wonderful man, about the pain he suffered.”
She collects herself.
“Thank you for that. And please, please, thank Ann for me.”
Outside, the sun emerges, pushing back against earlier grayness. I think of Ann making her faithful rounds in a RAV4, feeding cats in a colony near a shopping center and then another off Spring Garden, where wary felines gather and await her. At home she cares for Leslie’s cat, Virginia, and other rescues.
There is always an Ann, I think, to show us our better selves.
Winter will yield to spring. The sun, defiant, climbs higher until its magnificent sunset.









